Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Day 19: Get Clear by Creating Your Dream List

Now that we are all warmed up and creative, it's time to create the love life we want. But how can we do that if you don't know what it is that we are exactly searching for? Well this is where we discuss being proactive vs reactive. Everyone remember what the difference between these two? Well, when you are proactive you are actively going after what you want and making opportunities for yourself, instead of being reactive where we just spend your time reacting to what gets thrown at us- and there is no guarantee that what is being thrown our way is something we actually want. 

So how do we create a proactive relationship? Well, it all comes form taking care of yourself first, and not creating certain expectations for him to meet. The sooner you start focusing on yourself and what makes you happy and like yourself, instead of worrying about what to do to make him like you more, you will be far better off and a whole lot less disappointed when things don't meet your expectations. 

What to take away from this?
"We are responsible for everything that happens in our lives because we control what we do and how we react."

When we are healthy and happy, we attract healthy and happy people into our lives. You have to create the relationship you want with yourself first, before you can get the relationship you want from other people. In order to do this you have to be clear with yourself about what you want. This is were the "dream list" comes in. This list is where you need to be dead honest with yourself about what you want and what you want to accomplish. These aren't supposed to be specific goals, think more of making a list of activities.

I recently did something like this by creating a Day Zero Project list. I have 101 things to complete- from serious goals to silly activities I never make time to do. I highly recommend this project for anyone who needs a lil push in the right direction to get things done. 

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